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Murder Victim Jordan Vigil: 'More Than Just a Number'

The Hayward man's family speaks out a week after his body was found in a Castro Valley garage.

Instead of gathering to enjoy the sunshine on Saturday, family, friends and neighbors of a slain Hayward man gathered to raise money for his funeral services and for his children.

was during a routine probation check.

Although the , no arrests have been made.

On Saturday, a gathering was held on Hathaway Avenue, offering a car wash and bake sale to raise money for Vigil's funeral costs and for his two sons, Jordan Jr., 13, and Joseph, 3.

"People need to keep in mind he was someone's son, brother, uncle and father. He was more than just a number," Marilyn Vigil, his mother, told Castro Valley Patch.

Vigil transferred from one school to another during his youth, ending up at Tennyson High School. His family said because he excelled at math, he was placed in a gifted and talented education program for students, which allowed him to switch schools to be in a higher grade.

He did not gradute but did earn his GED and went on to take a few classes at Chabot College. Vigil worked different jobs, according to his 21-year-old sister Katie, and was still figuring out what he wanted to do as a career.

"He made the best of any situation," Katie said. "He was my brother. I loved him."

Aside from Katie, Vigil also had an older brother, Dominic, 32. Family members said he seems to be taking Vigil's death the hardest and has not been seen since the passing of his brother.

Their mother, Marilyn Vigil, recalls Vigil's genuine love of sports, particularly baseball and basketball.

"He had soft hands. He was a natural," she said.

He also had passion for people, according to Marilyn Vigil. During his younger years, he served as a conflict manager and was usually the one negotiating for people who fought on the playground.

"There was not a spiteful bone in his body," she said. "He was easy going. Everything rolled off his back."

Though she admits Vigil wasn't the perfect son — making bad choices, some of which he eventually paid for by serving time in jail — she said he had no recent violent crimes.

One of the last things she recalls Vigil telling her was how he had hopes of turning his life around, especially with his sons.

"He was just trying to be a better dad to his kids," she said. "That's coming from a mother who knew her son made poor choices but didn't deserve to go out like this. No one does."

People from all over the Bay Area turned up on Saturday to offer their condolences and give donations to the Vigil family.

Benjamin Ramirez of Fremont heard about the family's loss from his church, El Shaddai Ministries in San Lorenzo. He decided to offer all the proceeds he collected from selling hot dogs that day from his recently-purchased hot dog cart.

"I was in a position where I could help out," he said. "I don't know [Vigil] at all, but we just need to come together as a community and help each other out."

The fundraiser, which was held from 8 a.m. to about 5 p.m., raised more than $4,500.

"I knew my son was loved, but I didn't know he's touched so many lives," Marilyn Vigil said.

Vigil's body was released to the family on Monday, and they plan to have the funeral later this week or next.

Marilyn Vigil added that the family may hold another fundraiser in the near future, however, she is also accepting donations through PayPal.

For those who wish to make further contributions, you can contact Marilyn at marilyn.vigil@yahoo.com.

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marilyn vigil May 22, 2012 at 02:13 PM
thank you for allowing others to see my son was more than his choices and that he meant the world to many people, Everyone needs to know this. Just a slight correction, Jordan didnt move from school to school, he went to one school, and because he was a GATE student he moved to another school to be in a higher grade. He was working on changing things in his life, He didnt graduate, but did get his GED and also took classes and had gotten certified in microsoft word, excel, access and a few other programs. Thank you for allowing others to see he was more than just another thug who deserved what he got ...no one deserves that. Thank you Marilyn Vigil
Analisa Harangozo (Editor) May 22, 2012 at 03:37 PM
Ah, thank you Marilyn. I'll correct this right now.
Rachell Romero May 22, 2012 at 03:40 PM
Jordan has been my friend since we were 11 yrs old.... he's always been a very kind, outgoing, people person. His been the same our whole lives! He never changed! I'm very thankful that his life being taken for no reason has recognition from the public & that his life was treasured by many people. Jordan has & always will hold a very special place in my heart forever. He will never be forgotten....
marilyn vigil May 22, 2012 at 03:46 PM
Thank you Rachell for you and your families tremendous outpour of love you showed and continue to show for my beautiful son Jordan... you're right, he never ever did change who or how he was with people, he lit up a room just with his smile, let alone his great personality and humor. LOve you guys and thanks Marilyn
Rachell Romero May 22, 2012 at 03:55 PM
You're very welcome Marilyn. We love your family too! I only have a few REAL FRIENDS & Jordan was one of them. I love him & miss him very much already! Just take it easy & know if you need anything call me. Dom has my #. I talk to him daily so don't hesitate to call too! :)
Leticia Velasco May 22, 2012 at 04:18 PM
I meet Jordan threw my girlfriend his cousin Trisha and I must say I was blessed to have met him he was a joker he would always say " Cuz im a gambler" im gonna miss u Jordan
TAY May 22, 2012 at 04:30 PM
Marilyn I didnt know your son but I am cool with someone who was. I jus wanted to tell you that I am so sorry for your loss. And I def agree with you...no one DESERVES that! And I think regardless of how he lived or what he had done in his past makes what happened to him in any way DESERVED. Its wrong that a lot of focus is on that! He was a PERSON...someones son,nephew,friend,lover,father,or cousin. I will say that I have known a lot of thugs(not saying he was for I didnt know him personally) and they in my opinion have been AWESOME people! My best friend in the whole world is what I would call a thug who Ive been friends with since age 15 til now age 27...and is one of the best people TO ME that I have ever known. People are way too judging and forget that his family & friends have to read that! Jus insensitive! I truly feel for you for I too am a mother of 2 boys ages 3 and 5. I couldnt imagine the pain your experiencing and Im sorry you have to feel that. Im a 27 yrs old single mother and my boys are my life! I am so deeply touched by this and although everyone who knew him is experiencing pain from loss...I believe that the greatest loss in the world is that of a parents loss of their child. My brother passed away and though it wasnt similar to your situation I seen my mother at her lowest point ever. I jus wanted to offer my condolences to the family....but especially to you. I cant imagine what your feeling and Im sorry you are feeling that kind of pain.
marilyn vigil May 22, 2012 at 04:32 PM
I know Leticia, he loved his dice, lol, he loved all you guys too very much, and thank you all for being there for him and for loving my son.
marilyn vigil May 22, 2012 at 04:33 PM
I will Rachell, and the same for you and thank you for keeping in touch with Nick he needs all he can get right now in the way of love and support thanks
marilyn vigil May 22, 2012 at 04:56 PM
awe Tay you are right I cant begin to express, not only the shock of this the senselessness of this but the absolute unbearable ache in my heart for losing a priceless son who was the most beautiful soul I could have the privilege to have had in my life. He will be so completely missed and always loved. do you and your beautiful babies a favor and give yourself a real chance, get out of here. I wish I had done that and will forever regret that I didnt. love ...<3
TAY May 22, 2012 at 05:21 PM
I am working hard on that... There is no way I want to raise my boys out here. Not in a disrespectful way because I LOVE the bay....born and raised...left a couple times for a bit but found myself back every time. I have a lot of fam out here. But I am not a single anymore...Im a trio. I need to finish up school to make sure that when I leave I will only come back for fam and friends visits only. And though I dont know you and if I may say so Im sure as a mother you did the best YOU could. There is no handbook for parenting...I live by that saying because it is so true. And since becoming a mother I have realized the struggles my mom went through and have a love and RESPECT for her and all mothers...especially for you at this time. I respect you for going through this and taking the time to write back to others and esp to others you do not know. Thank you for that. Please try your hardest not to have regrets and try seeing that you as a mother(and most mothers) did your best you knew how to and with what you were given. Take Care...from a mother to a mother...Im deeply sorry and hope that with time that heart ache will let up... <3
Jennifer May 22, 2012 at 06:55 PM
Marilyn, I knew your sons through my daughter's father John Hannemann. Although I haven't seen them in a long time I will always remember Jordan as a sweetheart who was so silly...always cracking jokes and laughing. It is true, he never deserved what happened and he was a good person and was always nice to everyone he met. I am keeping you all in my prayers and I hope that Dominic finds comfort in knowing that his brother is an angel and is watching over him and all of you.
Jessica Smith May 22, 2012 at 08:03 PM
I met Jorden back in 2003 through a friend. Shortly after I found out he grew up not to far from me when I was a kid and knew my sister, brother and cousins. We became friends and he had such a cool personality and was always making us laugh. We lost touch after I had a son and although I haven't seen Jordan in a few years when I heard the news of his passing I cried. He was really a good person. Im glad that I met him and have so many good memories of him. RIP JORDEN. GONE BUT NEVER FORGOTTEN.
cheryl May 22, 2012 at 09:16 PM
merilyn, I met flaco, about 4 years ago and my foundest memories with him are when we would throw dice . He love throwing dice for money. He got me started and now i dont throw unless cash is involved. Your son was such a sweet kid and he always was smiling. . My daughter had just braided his hair right before this tragidy accured. I dont care what , flaco did not deserve for this to happen to him. He wasnt the type of person that went around burning other people. He lived one day at a time, just trying to servive. im going to miss him so much, May he RIP. and Marilyn i am so so sorry for your loss, you had such a wonderful son. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I pray everyday that they get the person or persons who did this to your son. i am honored to have know your son.
Sandra AguirreHerrera May 23, 2012 at 04:25 AM
I don't know if it's just my pc but the video link won't open so here is the link for those of you who want to see it. Thanks! http://youtu.be/ODyOeYVum50
lily arreola May 23, 2012 at 05:17 AM
Marilyn I just need for you to know that I love and will always love your son. everyday I cry and pray that he was here. I know you and I were never on good terms, but I want so bad to be there with you and cry with you. People could say what they want about me and think I had part in this, please believe that I didn't. Yes we had our problems and we did fight alot, what couples didn't, but never ever would I want this. My heart aches so bad. This feels like a bad dream.I can't imagine the hurt and pain you have. I know how much he loved you and his boys. And you were so right when you said he had soft hands. When I read that it made me smile because he did. Man,I miss him so much I need him here! My heart is with you Marilyn regardless how you feel towards me. I pray for your strength and for god to heal your heart and also mine.
S. L. Barnett May 23, 2012 at 11:07 AM
Our heartfelt prayers go out to you and your family.
Maribel Canizalez May 24, 2012 at 04:50 AM
Never met him, but for a mother must be painful to lose a child, but in the circumstances that Jordan lost his life. my sincere condolences especially to the mother, family and friends who knew him in life. rest in peace ... Maribel Canizalez
Analisa Harangozo (Editor) May 24, 2012 at 08:12 AM
Jessica, I had to delete your comment because it went against Patch's Terms of Use (http://www.patch.com/terms)
barbi s May 24, 2012 at 11:41 PM
I love ur life flaco always and forever
Peter m June 01, 2012 at 03:41 PM
Mom this pretty boy I can't belive they killed my lil brother I broken in so many parts an their scatter all over I promis I'll take care of Dom an keep him cool love u mom an I can't get over this he been the same lik baby boy sinces I was 8 he never changed an all ways made me fill better no matter what I was going through he never knew how much he helped me get through my mom being sick I had to hear him every day talking shit to me an he didn't know he turned my sad faces an fillings into a big smile an laugh I'm going to mis my lil brother
Jade June 02, 2012 at 11:21 PM
your in our hearts always and FOREVER flaco!
Ivette San Juan July 11, 2012 at 06:15 AM
Ivette S.J. My heart broke today when I was told what happend to my dearest friend flaco. I have no words to express the sorrow that my heart feels. I last saw him at his brother's house , me and my boyfriend had a few drinks with him and gambled as always... Jordan had a beautiful spirit . I will forever miss him. Our deepest condolences to the family. May god keep him in his glory. I love u my nigg.

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